To be clear, I don’t mean your personality.
I mean “PERSONALITIES”.
You know the type – the person at the office who constantly rubs you the wrong way with how they handle everything. The person who can’t help but behave unprofessionally and lets their PERSONALITY become everyone else’s problem.
I have the fortune of working with such a person.
To be clear – I really do mean, fortune. Because I feel like it has taught me so much, and specifically, I have learned so much about myself in the process. Not only am I constantly challenged to behave professionally on my own, even though I constantly want to snap and give this individual my top-notch fierce BROOKLYN attitude, but I am also challenged to see beyond the facade that comes through and see what the real issues are. The fixable ones. The ones I can possibly help with.
I’ve also, coincidentally, learned that I am extremely patient. That I am able to put my instincts and reflex thoughts aside, and speak from the heart. I’ve learned about my impeccable ability to ease conflict and to comfort people who display anger, but are really seeking understanding.
Of course, none of this excuses anyone’s actions. It doesn’t mean it’s okay for anyone to take their personality out on anyone else. But it does speak volumes about how much we can control in our own lives – even when it’s someone else’s problems shining through. We get to choose whether we HEAR what someone says, or whether we LISTEN. We can choose to internalize what they say or to have it bounce off of us. We can be the person in our lives where the negativity comes to die.
Is there someone in your life that’s challenging you?