I Don’t Believe in Compromise

… I bet you’re like.. did this girl just tell me never to compromise? She must be batshit!

Webster Dictionary defines Compromise as the following: an agreement or a settlement of a dispute that is reached by each side making concessions..

“Each side making concessions”… sounds like we’re all willingly signing ourselves up for disappointment. Why in the world would you want to sign up to be in a relationship where you’re constantly disappointed and so is your partner? Who wants to give a little all the time? Why wouldn’t you want to live in the ‘extreme’ and just be happy as often as possible?

It is my honest opinion that we need to redefine compromise and how your typical relationship works. 

Let’s try this on for size: If something is MORE important to your significant other than it is to you.. go with what your significant other wants. The opposite is, of course, also true. If something is extremely important to you.. more so than it is to your partner.. don’t battle over it.. just make it clear how important it is.

How many problems are created by both partners being somewhat disappointed ALL THE TIME? Based on this new definition, disappointment would briefly occur for the one partner that doesn’t get his/her way. However, you will be rewarded with a partner who is not disappointed in any way and is instead, hopefully, very happy.

We need to give up on the idea that you’re always going to be happy with every single thing your significant other does, but your ultimate goal should be to make each other as happy as possible. Wouldn’t it be better if we agreed to base our “compromises” based on priorities? You’d be happiest on the things that matter MOST to YOU!

Obviously, your significant other would have to agree to this otherwise you’re forever giving into things and getting nothing back and that will leave you in a very disappointing one-sided relationship.